How To Raise Your Prices With Confidence (It Has Nothing To Do With Self Esteem)

“Raise your prices!”

This is one of those pieces of advice that everyone likes to give.

“I raised my prices and soon I had three times as much work!”

And that’s the type of anecdote that usually accompanies it.

But raising prices isn’t so easy.

Raise Your Prices- I'm good enough catThere are lots and LOTS of resources on pricing out there. From how to price, to why price, from buyer psychology to maximizing returns. You can google that stuff on your own time if that’s your specific problem.

But from what I’ve seen, most people don’t have a problem with pricing, per se. As business owners, they’re familiar with the concept of capitalism, and they know that they deserve fair compensation for their efforts.

They just have a problem with justifying the pricing with a reason beyond “I’m worth it.” This is the tack that a lot of articles on the subject take. “Raise your prices because you’re awesome and because people can afford to pay you more, dammit. What you do is valuable.”  For most people, this is a subjective assessment and one your client does not automatically share.

Worse, when these articles try to persuade you to raise your prices, they make the assumption that if you could only believe in yourself, you’d be able to raise your prices and never look back. They assume that people are wrestling with a sense of inadequacy that prevents them them from charging “what they’re worth.”

Having had this discussion with just about every client I’ve ever had, I contend that the issue is less a sense of personal inadequacy and more a sense of not being in an objectively defensible position.

Raise Your Rates

Positioning is crucial for comfort in pricing.

It’s not that we don’t think we should earn $X an hour. It’s that asking someone to pay you $X/hr is a complicated endeavor. (I know that most people don’t charge a flat hourly rate. But, most people do have an hourly rate that they aim for when pricing their products and services.)

We’re social animals, so beyond the simple “Are you kidding me?” reaction, we also fear that pricing ourselves too high will damage our standing in the group. Now, like it or not, we’re all members of a group. There’s your industry. There’s the group of business owners who you follow and who follow you. And there’s your customers, of course. And like it or not, you care what these people think about you. We’re social animals. We can’t help it.

So even when there are ample justifications to raise the price, many people balk. It’s a complex job to renegotiate this type of social contract, and handled poorly, can have significant negative impacts. Since few people consider themselves to be good negotiators, they resist changing things because they’re cognizant of the damage that might be done to their business and their relationships if they screw it up.

But– everyone is telling them to raise their prices. And they know they should. So how does this play out in real life?

They say they’ll raise the prices — in 6 months.

Or, they’ll raise the price on paper, but then throw in a bunch of time-consuming freebies.

Or, they’ll raise the price– but then give all their existing clients the old rate. And anyone those clients send. And if a new client seems like someone they’d like to work with? They get the old rate, too. So who’s paying the new rate? Nobody.

(Well, that’s not true. Sometimes, people quote their higher rate to a client they don’t want to work with, and then they’re chagrined when that client doesn’t bat an eye and takes them up on their offer.)

As much as I beat up on the “just improve your self esteem” crowd, I don’t want to imply that most people are exactly comfortable with saying, “I’m worth more.” I’m only saying that creating a defensible marketing position will do more to enhance their comfort than affirmations about their worthiness.

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That’s why I say that positioning is crucial for comfort in pricing. If you don’t feel like the value proposition of what you’re selling is obvious to your customers, you’re going to want to explain it to them.

And the act of explaining, which feels very similar to defensiveness, is what triggers people to backtrack.

So in most cases, I find that working through the positioning of their offerings to make the value proposition obvious and explicit has a two-fold effect:

First, the explicitness of the offer functions like a sales page; even for services, the more explicit you can be about the offer and the results that will be forthcoming, the more easily potential clients will be able to see themselves in possession of the offering. This has a tendency to increase sales.

The second reason is that the act of positioning the offer so that its value is obvious takes the pressure of selling off your shoulders. Because the value is obvious, the only decision the potential buyer has to make is whether they need the service or not. It relieves you of the need to persuade, which is the thing that people find difficult, and what leads them to erode their profitability by offering extra freebies. Again, I don’t think this is an issue of self-esteem as much as it is poor negotiating skills.

So if you find yourself saying you’ll raise your rates but you don’t take the time and study your positioning: Run it by other people to make sure that it’s compelling so that you don’t second-guess yourself when the time comes to make the sale.

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2 thoughts on “How To Raise Your Prices With Confidence (It Has Nothing To Do With Self Esteem)”

  1. I’ve actually heard an argument or two on how you can’t charge “what you’re worth” because you are pretty much priceless, and that you should price according to what YOUR WORK (more accurately, the result of the service/product/course/etc.) is worth TO THE CUSTOMER/CLIENT. And that makes sense to me. But at the same time, some things are hard to quantify. How do you put a numeric value on clarity? Peace of mind? Support? Staying on track with life goals? Those things can be priceless too.

    I think you should consider what you need/want to make, what the results are worth to the clients/customers, and what the clients you want to work with can actually afford to pay. And after that, yep, it’s all about positioning.
    I definitely struggle with pricing and positioning, although I am slowly improving. I’m in an incubation period at the moment, but after I write my new website pages, I will probably ask for feedback before making anything live.

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    I definitely agree that accomplishing things and learning new skills is a great way to build self esteem.

    I think affirmations aren’t used the right way most of the time. They’re often things like “I am happy and successful” and when you feel the total opposite of that, it isn’t going to help. One of my clients once said something like “telling yourself “I like strawberry ice cream” when you actually don’t, isn’t going to suddenly make you feel good about eating it” in a conversation we were having about why affirmations don’t work. I think that explains it perfectly. Affirmations done in this way (as they so often are), basically amount to attempting to lie to yourself. I think it’s actually harmful, because you’re invalidating your thoughts and feelings by doing this. Affirmations done well state things that are true. So for example, “Even though I don’t feel happy and successful right now, I am taking steps to become happy and successful.” Or “I want to feel happy and successful. I am opening up to the possibility that I can become happy and successful. I am open to discovering things that will help me become happy and successful.” 
    (Granted, those aren’t the greatest examples, but hopefully they illustrate the point.)

    Sorry If this is all running together. I’m on my phone at the moment and it doesn’t always pick up paragraphs when I comment on things.

    1. It’s weird, the line breaks show up in the back end, but on the page they suck.

      Yeah, affirmations are basically a lie, UNLESS you can tie them into a facet of your identity that you already hold. Like “I am going to the gym and working out 3x a week because I am a responsible person who takes care of my belongs and my body needs taking care of too.”

      Value to the client is obviously the gold standard, but, as you pointed out, extremely difficult to quantify. But sometimes I figure out how *I* value peace of mind; like I’ll think back to a time when I learned something really basic like what a normal promotion looks like in my field, and how just knowing that I didn’t have to second-guess myself anymore suddenly made launches very approachable and I suddenly started doing them! It depends on the outcome of the clarity and specificity, but I think it’s possible to find a dollar approximation.

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