Life-Hack: Miracle Mood-Booster

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I will teach you how to improve your mood instantly with no adverse side effects. It doesn’t matter what’s wrong, it will lighten your mood instantly, and with barely any effort. For whatever it’s worth, it’s also scientifically proven.

And I’m also going to give you permission not to do it. Because I run into people who erroneously thing that you must be happy all the time, or you are not showing proper gratefulness, or you’re attracting negativity or something. This is bullshit. Emotions are information. They grant insight into your state of mind underneath the conscious level.

You ever have one of those days where you have a bit of a head ache, the minor irritations seem to be piling up, and you have to be around people, none of whom are doing anything for which you have the right to bite their heads off, but you still want them to shut the hell up and go away anyway?

Those are the times this technique is made for.

Ok, grab a writing utensil. Brace the end of the pencil between your teeth so it sticks straight out of your face like Pinocchio’s nose. Your teeth are probably bared at this point. If not, raised your cheek-bones and bare your teeth so that the ends of your lips are as close to your ears as possible. Maintain for at least 20 seconds. You’ll likely notice a warm flush of endorphins in your brain. Repeat as needed.

You may have caught on to the fact that you are, in fact, reproducing a smile. (This is how psychologists get around telling you to smile, which is like cheating in a psychological study.) And smiling, even faking a smile, makes us feel better.

Congratulations. You now have the ability to miraculously improve your mood anytime you want.

Which means you will have to come to terms with not wanting to be in a good mood all the time. Sometimes you want to be angry, irritated, or resentful. This is normal, and is just a way of making space to validate those feelings.

Like I said, emotions are just information, and noticing that you just don’t want to let go of being pissed off will force you to ask why you don’t want to give that up. For instance, I know a woman whose partner believes than as soon as her mood improves after a fight, it means the fight is over and he’s forgiven. So although she doesn’t want to remain angry for several days, she feels she has to in order for him “to learn the lesson” and because he the minimizes whatever contributed to the fight, reasoning that if she got over it easily, it couldn’t have been that egregious.

So there are any number of reasons why you might need to “feel your feelings” (apologies for the unbearably trite phrase) and knowing that you could hypothetically “cure” them at any time begs the question of whether they can in fact be cured, or if they need to dealt with and addressed as full-blown issues, worthy of full discussion and examination.

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5 thoughts on “Life-Hack: Miracle Mood-Booster”

  1. I like how you say  you just have to ‘come to terms with not wanting to be in a good mood all the time.’I like it because i find so much of my own groundedness, clarity – growth in general in a direction i’m proud of came from coming to terms with something i thought i was supposed to be fixing or avoiding or resisting or transmuting in some way.  I also love the way you express these feelings as just information.  I recently learned that i’m not very good at understanding the language of my own anger – I can feel the emotion but i’m the last person to correctly identify it or interpret it.  if i think about it in terms of information all that is involved is learning how it communicates with me so that i can understand it – there’s no grand drama or need to make a big to do about it – just curiosity and that willingness to come to terms with something i’ve been conditioned to instinctively avoid.

    1. there’s no grand drama or need to make a big to do about it – just curiosity and that willingness to come to terms with something i’ve been conditioned to instinctively avoid.


      Yeah. That’s the trick. You just have to realize that simply because you’ve always avoided it doesn’t neccesarily mean that you *have* to.  It’s like growing up avoiding the forest because you’ve implicitly understood a witch lived there. 🙂 It’s not even a story you’re fighting, it’s an understanding– — and those are SO hard to identify, because they’re so ephemeral.

  2. Tee-Hee! That trick not only physically mimics a smile, it also starts out looking like a snarly-growly-grimace, which expresses your current emotion, AND also “looks silly” (pencil like Pinocchio’s nose!), which easily leads to the above giggle, if not an out-right LOL. Et voila: Better mood! 🙂

  3. I just found a friend’s old sig-line that seems, at least vaguely, apropos ~ “You can’t reason someone out of a position that they didn’t reason themselves into.” Then again, maybe it’s not – but I just had to share it! (Maybe it’s a teaser?)Good Change of Seasons to you, and Happy New Year! Karen

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