If You’re In A Crisis, Read This

After a crazy week and some irritating carpal tunnel pain, I opened the larder and the larder was bare, creatively. (And also, it hurts to type.) So enjoy the very, very oldest surviving post on Change Catalyst– still as fresh and relevant as it was five (FIVE) years ago.

And the family crisis I mention below? I have no idea now what it was. Isn’t that just how it goes?

I was up half the night with a family crisis, but in spite of myself, I didn’t turn that alarm back. I reasoned that my going along with my routine would actually make me feel better than the extra sleep.

Routines keep you sane.

There is nothing more crazy-making than being turned in a hundred directions, assailed by a thousand pleas, and no way to say, “No, this is the way it has to be.” What are you, a toddler that needs their nap? Precisely. A routine is a place of serenity in your life, patterned and precise, where things that are important already have their place. If you abandon that in an hour of stress, you are well and truly shipwrecked. Either your routine was too full of useless enterprises or you need to practice saying no.

Routines keep you productive.

In spite of how it may seem, both to you and to others, the world is not coming to an end. Animals and people still need to be fed, bills still need to be paid, and though you can schedule in the demands of hand-holding and otherwise dealing with crisis, you also need to be true to your own needs. Your routine is not negotiable in the sense that other people can tell you  “you don’t have to do that right now.” Your routine is important in the same way that daily personal hygiene is important—it may not be vital to personal survival, but it is still important to your place in society. Plus, you’ll be surprised about how quickly you can complete your responsibilities in a pinch. And that will make you feel good.

When all else fails, compromise.

It’s not the first day of the crisis, it’s the seventh. Your personal reserves are starting to run low. It’s ok if you’re not still getting up at 5am to run 10k. But don’t give up on yourself so easily. So what if it isn’t life or death—it’s important to you. And what’s more doing even a part of it pays dividends, not only in personal satisfaction, but in personal pleasure. Even if you get up at say seven and just jog a mile, you get the endorphin buzz, you stay at least a bit in condition, and you deal with stress in a healthy way.

Be gentle to yourself.

You might not be up to working on your magnum opus. Maybe you are, but you’re frustrated by the way your personal issues keep coming up in the art. It’s ok. Work on something inconsequential, if you don’t want to have to redo things when you’re on an even keel, or simply do some journaling before you start (a great way to lay to rest your tribulations and worries before you try to create.)  Bottom line: You need your routine, not only to make sure your personal needs are met, but to make sure that the needs of your household and your life in general have been adequately addressed.

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3 thoughts on “If You’re In A Crisis, Read This”

  1. websitesforgood

    Thank you for this repeat, Shanna. Just what *I* needed to hear as well.  I find my routines and systems are the first things to suffer when I’m under extreme stress, when it’s those very things that can create an oasis for me to return to sanity.

  2. websitesforgood I’m the same way. I just have to remind myself that structures are important, they give relief from decision fatigue and uncertainty. But I’m not very good. I don’t really have an impulse towards routine. I have to use a calendar to remember to do things. I have a popup that reminds me to go eat breakfast!

  3. websitesforgood

    Shanna Mann websitesforgood So true. I am looking at a note on my desk that says, “Drink water. Vitamins. Brush teeth.”  I wonder why some of us are better at this than others. Thanks, Shanna.

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